Post Spring Break Blues

untitled8784I was going to write about something going on it the news. … But I’ve decided to write about something that most students might be feeling right about now. … post Spring Break blues.

Spring Break is the longest and last break in the Spring semester. And this semester it seemed as though it came a little earlier than normal. Which means we have four weeks left until finals, well for graduating seniors.

We’re in the home stretch. But how can we focus on all the projects, exams,imagesUROWYHCC papers, presentations and finals we need to prepare for when it’s so warm and pretty outside.

I should be motivated with only four weeks left of my undergraduate career, but my motivation level is at an all-time low. No motivation to go to class. No motivation to pay attention. No motivation to do homework. No motivation to study.

But I somehow someway, I have to find some motivation. Any amount would help me right now. I don’t have time to slack off. Gotta shake these post spring break blues. But how?

First, I am going to make a to-do list of all the assignments I have left in the semester.

Second, I have to pace myself and prioritize.

Third, don’t forget to leave some time to relax and catch your breath. Sit outside in the sun. Eat ice cream. Watch Netflix. Sleep.

It’s important to remember that it’s only four weeks and that I’m not alone. And to remember summer is closer than you think. Always keep the end goal in mind: graduation!

With that being said, let’s shake off these post spring break blues and get motivated to end this semester strong. After all, for some of us, this is our last semester undergrad. Let’s make the most of it!

 

 

 

 

And the countdown begins…

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Or if you’re like me, the countdown really started the first day of this semester.

It’s kind of hard to believe that I graduate from college in less than two months. But I am really excited! I just have a few problems…

  1. I have senioritis bad!

Senioritis is an affliction that students in their last year of high school or college deal with. Common symptoms of this affliction are loss or decline in motivation and performance.

Signs you have senioritis (excuse the language): http://www.buzzfeed.com/daves4/signs-that-you-might-have-senioritis#.he9lXqq8N

And it seems like the closer it gets to graduation, the worse this condition becomes. The untitled1587courses I am taking require a lot of work. I always have assignments due and others that I should really start working on and on top of that I still have to study. But there never seems to be enough time in the day to get it all done.

I make to do lists. But they never get done. Whatever is left on yesterday’s to do list, is added to today’s to do list. And the cycle continues throughout the week. Sometimes to make myself feel better, I just throw away the list and start over. I still have the same amount to get done but it helps me not to freak out.

I don’t think there is anything that could help or cure my senioritis besides walking across the stage at graduation, but for those of you who are looking for tips to battle your senioritis, maybe these tips and sites will help you:

http://www.usnews.com/education/best-colleges/articles/2011/11/18/5-tips-to-battle-college-senioritis

https://www.wetfeet.com/articles/10-ways-to-suppress-college-senioritis

2. Life after graduation

People keep asking me what my plans are post-graduation… And for the past couple of months my response has been the same… I laugh and trying not to cry I tell them, “I’m just trying to make it to graduation.”

untitled15896How do I find the time to plan for my life after graduation? I barely have time to think about that.

http://www.imfirst.org/2014/04/planning-for-post-college-life-and-fighting-senioritis/

http://www.hercampus.com/career/job-advice/5-ways-fight-senioritis-land-job-after-graduation

So, not only are we seniors fighting senioritis – or who have given up on fighting – but at the same time we have to start planning for what we’re going to do after we graduate.

My brain just exploded for the umpteenth time this semester. So much to do, so little time left to do it all.

And the countdown continues… Good luck to all my graduating senior buddies! And may the odds be ever in your favor…

986bd5241162a781e764ae7fa5fe3012P.S. it’s okay to cry and/or scream…

 

 

 

Canada, not the only option

Since Trump announced that he was running for president, people have been talking about fleeing the country if he is elected. Those statements resurfaced last week.untitled546

As Super Tuesday results began to come in, more and more people searched phrases like: how to move to Canada or move to Canada. Why? Because Trump won most of the Republican primaries and caucuses. And the possibility of him actually becoming presidential became much more of a reality.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2016/03/02/the-real-winner-of-super-tuesday-is-canada/?tid=hybrid_experimentrandom_1_na

For those who plan on fleeing the Trump administration, where are you going to go? I’ve only heard talk of Canada, but are there other options? I ask because, Canada’s winter temperature falls below freezing in most of Canada. And I am not a fan of cold weather.

In article on the Washington Post, there is a guide to see where you might want to go based upon the reason you want to leave – basically what you dislike most about Trump.

imagesFHFS6FEAFor example, if you prefer your press free and “want to live in a place where no one bullies the press,” then you might want to consider Finland. Finland was at the top of the 2015 World Press Freedom Index. Norway and Denmark where also at the top, according to the website.

 

Other reasons to flee if Trump is elected:

  • You find his coarse behavior obnoxious
  • You don’t want to fight wars
  • You don’t think he’s tough on abortion
  • You trust the federal government more than private industry
  • You like the idea of people being “politically correct” or rather, not offending each other
  • You think he’s a misogynist, and you want a country that appreciates having a woman in charge

Check out the website above if you’re curious to see which places would be best for the following reasons listed.

Have you considered moving if Trump is elected? If so, why? If past elections, very few people have made good on their promise to flee. Will this year be any different?untitled1545

Museum of Broken Relationships

img_4199That’s right, you read it correctly. But before you get your hopes up or down, this is not a post about my failed or broken friendships or relationships.

It’s a real museum! The museum consists of donated mementos and keepsakes that people would normally throw away or stuff in a box after breakups. Now people can actually put those things to good use.

In 2006, the museum began as a traveling exhibition. In 2010, a permanent location was found in Zagreb. It first started in Croatia by two artists three years after their break up.

You can find things from “rings, presents, and clothing items, unusual contributions have included air sickness bags from a long distance relationship, an axe that one boyfriend used to chop up his girlfriend’s furniture after she fell in love with someone else, and a candy thong.”

fc73b7c553293394dfdb8bbd2696bbc2If this sounds intriguing to you. No worries. You don’t have to send your broken relationship mementos all the way to Croatia. (Unless you want to). In May, The Museum of Broken Relationships will open in L.A. (A replica of the Croatia exhibit). They are accepting donations.

According to an article, “It will showcase 70 relics from the Zagreb museum, along with 30 items provided by lovelorn locals.” Next to each item, the place of origin and its significance will be found.

So, if you’re tired of seeing that box under your bed, at the top of your closet, stuffed away in your garage, attic or basement – be a good Samaritan and donated it to the museum.

Why not feel good about yourself for donating and do a little therapy by getting rid of stuff that reminds you of your past friendships or relationships all at the same time?

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There’s an app for that

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Every time I go back home, there is one question that my family never fails to ask: Do you have a boyfriend?

Not, how are you? How is school going? How are your classes? These questions are eventually ask, but most would expect that these would come first.

Then the follow-up questions: When will you start dating? What are you waiting on?

Point being, young adults feel pressure to get married between the ages of 21-30. Pressure from parents. Pressure from family. Pressure from the older generation. Pressure from young adults who are married. Pressure from society.

Everyone feels the need to put in their two cents, I mean advice, on when we should start dating or get married. Some go as far as to tell you who you should marry.

Why is everyone in a rush for me to date/marry? I’m not. It’ll happen when it’s supposed to and I’ll be happen even if that happens to be after the dreaded 30 year mark. I don’t feel the need to rush to find the perfect guy or rush to get married. That’s a really big decision and I don’t believe it is something that should be rushed into.

Check this out: The pressure is strong. Some young adults are succumbing to the pressure and getting married. Not saying that all of them are rushing, some of them may have very well found their soul mates. Just saying that a lot of young adults are marrying young these day.73e4acd51b15f09c59336f513545a3fe

Why is everyone in a rush to get married? I graduated high like a decade ago. Just kidding, it’s only been almost five years. And in those short five years, people who I either graduated with or went to high school with are married.

For example, I went to high school with a quints: three girls and two guys. They are graduated high school in 2013, two years after I did. The three girls are already married: one in 2014 and the other two in 2015. And without thinking very hard, I could probably name 10-15 others who have already gotten married. That number is actually higher.

It’s hard not to think about the idea that you’re getting old or waiting too long, when it seems like everyone around you is getting married. But hey, in the age of technology that we’re in… maybe there’s hope after all for those of us in that age bracket who haven’t taken the plunge or don’t see it happening anytime soon. Or maybe just someone else giving their two cents, oops I mean advice. The only difference is this time it’s through a screen.

If you need help determining whether the relationship you’re in is going to make it for the long haul, there’s an app for that. No, seriously.

logo-white.pngNanaya was created just for that purpose. According to benbulletin.com, Nanaya.co, is “an online site that can predict the user’s chances of finding an ideal match, where it’s most likely to happen, when you should settle down and how happy you’re likely to be in the relationship.”

And it only gets better. If you need help deciding what is the ideal age for you to get married, there’s an app for that.

Time Magazine created an app that calculates just that. And guess what, it’s screenshotbased upon
the ages your Facebook friends tied the knot. Find it here. According to the capitalfm.co.ke, the app “uses your Facebook friends and your birthday to calculate when is your ideal date to get married.  By using the median age of your married friends, this will theoretically figure out when it will be a good time for you to do the same – settling in a committed relationship.”

What? You mean to tell me, all I had to do is go online and answer some questions to find our when I’m going to find the perfect match and when I should settle down. Or connect an app to my Facebook to find out what age I should marry.

I’m in no way convinced that these these are true or have any accuracy, but I haven’t actually tried them out. Just couldn’t bring myself to.

But please don’t let my family find out… I’ll really never hear the end of it then.

 

How did you meet?

There are like a million online dating sites. (Well, that may be an exaggeration). Anyway, the point is there are a lot. To list a few: Plenty of Fish, match.com, eHarmony, ChristianMingle.com, BlackPeopleMeet.com, FarmersOnly.comAsianDating.com, JapanCupid.com, InterracialMatch.com, and the list goes on and on.

There is literally online dating sites for basically anyone. Singles looking for singles. Singles looking for rich mates. Singles looking for mates in a specific city/state. People looking for mates of a specific race. People looking for mates of a specific religion. Sites for men to meet female inmates. Sites for seniors. Sites for cougars to meet cubs. I think you get the point by now.

There are even sites just for hookups.

Online dating has definitely become a trend in recent years. According to datingtruth.com, you’re likely to see a commercial for a dating site if you watch TV for more than 15 minutes.

With this trend and the interest online dating has gotten, it surprises me that some people hide the fact that they met their mate online.

There is a commercial for BlackPeopleMeet.com that illustrates this point. Every time this couple is asked how they meet, they make up some lavish ‘lie’: bar mitzvah and learning ancient basket weaving in Honduras are some examples.

Maybe they’re ashamed or worried about what other people may think. I, personally, don’t think it’s a big deal. I don’t have an online dating profile nor do I plan on using a online dating site, but I’m not anti-online dating either. I’m indifferent. If you want to use it, that’s on you. I just don’t see the point in hiding it.

I have a friend who recently met a guy online and they have been dating for a couple of months now. And although her mother has invited him to stay at her house, so she can meet him, my friend is really worried about telling her mom that they met online. Why? I don’t know.

No matter where you meet your mate, that question is bound to come up when you introduce your mate to someone or tell someone that you are dating: How did you meet him or her?

Face it… you’re going to be asked, so just tell the truth. It’s not as uncommon today to hear that a couple met online.

Just remember that there are still risks with online dating. So be careful when online dating, but if you are lucky to find someone ‘normal’ and not crazy… embrace your relationship and the online dating site that brought you two together.

 

Commentary – Tops Suspended

As few weeks ago, I read a column with the headline: Three scariest words: President Donald Trump. Although for some Americans, these are the three scariest words they have ever heard because Trump has not been an ideal candidate for president. But that’s a story for another day. I did; however, bring that up to point out that for college students, current and future, the two scariest words for them is TOPS suspended.

It’s the latest news that Louisiana is suspending payments for TOPS through the rest of this school year and the next school year.

Video: http://www.kltv.com/clip/12208464/tops-suspended-as-budget-cuts-loom-in-louisiana 

What does this mean for students who have already received TOPS for this semester. And what about the TOPS that have not been distributed yet? According to an article on wwltv.com, student and parents could end up owing the remainder of the semester’s tuition that has not already been paid. However, according to an article on nola.com the Gov. Edwards and the Board of Regents, no students currently receiving TOPS would lose their scholarship mid-semester. Now students, especially college seniors, can breathe a little easier. But every other college student or future college students have to figure out how they will pay their tuition in addition to other college costs next school year.

According to President Bruno, in a worst-case scenario students would be billed for the balance on their individual accounts.

So, this could potentially affect students this semester, but an even bigger problem is going to be for students who planned on using TOPS for next year.

But if TOPS is also suspended for the rest of this school year and colleges won’t receive their final distributions for this fiscal year, are colleges and universities expected to cover this cost? According to Gov. Edwards in a letter to the commissioner of higher education, that’s approximately $26 million in TOPS that won’t be funded. Higher education will have to come up with ways to cover the shortfall. Cutting classes? Shutting down?

Students Speak Out

This is going to impact thousands of students, most in the University of Louisiana system because over half of the students receiving TOPS attend a college in that system. These colleges are: Grambling State University, Louisiana Tech University, McNeese State University, Nicholls State University, Northwestern State University, Southeastern Louisiana University, University of Louisiana- Lafayette, University of Louisiana- Monroe and University of New Orleans. LSU also has the largest percentage of its student body attending school through TOPS.

Now all that is left to do is to wait for colleges and universities to make their final decisions after Gov. Edwards releases the final budget.